Unconditional Love and Inner Authority

August 20

Many people identify with Elsa, a snow queen, who from fear of her power has hidden her gifts. In her home she suffered from isolation, believing herself both unloved and unlovable.

In Disney’s “Frozen” movie, Elsa has a gift to make snow and ice.  At the beginning of the movie, she is using her gift to make a winter wonderland where she plays with her sister, Anna.

Anna gets hurt one day in their play.  Elsa and her family become afraid of Elsa’s power and keep Elsa in isolation so that she won’t hurt her sister or anyone else.  They no longer see her power as a gift, but only as a danger. 

Elsa’s healing journey to freedom and restored relationship with her sister is the major theme of the story.

When Elsa emerges from isolation, and claims her gift she sings, “Let it Go… It’s time to see what I can do, to test the limits and break through, no right, no wrong, no rules for me. I’m free… I’ll rise like the break of dawn.”  She has claimed her inner authority. It would take the unconditional love of another, in this case, her sister to heal her isolation and enable her to use her gifts in the larger community.

We parents may feel fearful of “letting go,” of our children. We raise our young children with the “letter of the law”, giving them rules to live productively and peacefully in the world. Part of “letting go” of our maturing children is moving from the “letter of the law” to the “spirit of the law,” helping our children develop the capacity to discern wise choices in complex situations.

In this we must trust that, like Elsa, they have a Divine inner Authority who will be revealed in them in ways we cannot imagine. Kahlil Gibran said it well when he said: “You may give your children your love, but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.”

Gratitude Prompt: What is a hidden gift that I have had the courage to bring out into the open?